Adult Children Of Alcoholics

Basics of this Zone

This is something that has been important to me for a very long time.  When I was dealing with my dad's alcoholism as well as the fact that it was killing him.  I looked everywhere trying to find some information.  Hoping beyond hope to find someone somewhere who might understand a little of what I was going through.  

Unfortunately, I found very little.  I have always felt there should be more information available.  Growing up in a home with an alcoholic parent leaves effects on a person that last for many years if not forever.  It is my desire as an adult who grew up with an alcoholic parent to reach out to others who are dealing with the effects of growing up in an alcoholic household.

There is no need to compare battle scares.  There is however, a need to know that someone else out there somewhere understands and is dealing with some of the same confusion and emotions.  We as adults, finally have the right to break down the walls we built in order to protect ourselves.  

In so doing we can finally realize who we are and acknowledge the potential that is inside of us.  The potential that for so many years has been hidden because of the secret torment we had to deal with in our lives.  Together we can as adults get past the shame, confusion, embarrassment and anger as well as the multitude of other emotions that for so many years kept us from accepting ourselves or allowing others to get close to us.

I hope this zone will help you or someone you love,

Carolina

Adult Children of Alcoholics - Long-term effects

Children of alcoholics grow up to be adult children of alcoholics. My story is a little different from many others I've heard about, as my dad was never abusive to me. Actually, my dad never spanked me.

In my teen years is when my dad's alcoholism got out of control. During that time, it seems most days revolved around trying to pretend life was not what it was. I distanced myself from friends and family.

I think that children of alcoholics tend to grow up confused. I wanted to disappear, yet at the same time I longed so deeply to be loved even though I had no idea what that...

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Poem

Broken

Broken promises, shattered dreams
Lying alone in the dark of night
Trying to hide the silent screams
Hoping for joy in the morning light

A broken heart who can bare?
Living in denial and constant fright
Hope any longer do you even dare?
Trying to make everything right

You struggled to give your all
There’s no more to give
Now hiding behind a self made wall
Knowing you must forgive

Hands folded in silent prayer.
Knowing you have to go on
Not even sure you really care
Waiting for a new day to dawn.

By

Carolina Coy

Should parents teach children how to drink alcohol responsibly or maintain a no-use policy at home?