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Born and raised in the Blue Ridge Mountains of Va. I have been married to my high school sweetheart since 1993. We have one son. Being a military family has taken our family all over the country and created new challenges and opportunities along the way.

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Creative Writing > Reflections Reflections: When your spouse is in the military: 1 of 26

Marine Wife is my job title. The job was thrust upon me during a beautiful December wedding to my high school sweetheart in a small church in rural Virginia, 14 years ago. At 21 years of age, I knew that I didn't have a clue what to expect from my new job, only that my now Husband looked breathtakingly handsome in his dress ...
Politics, News & Issues > War & Terrorism Why it is important to remember the 9/11 terrorism attacks: 4 of 60

At 8:30am on September 11, 2001 I was on a treadmill in a gym aboard a Marine Corps Base in North Carolina. Having just dropped off my son at preschool, this was a normal routine for me. As it also was for the familiar faces around me. We were spaced out, each person trying to carve out a little space of their own in this ve...
Politics, News & Issues > US News The impact of technology and media on how the public views a war: 2 of 9

The beep on the cell phone tells me that I've received a new email. The email is the GPS system in my nine year olds cellular phone acknowledging that he has arrived at his destination, school. When the teenage newspaper boy came to my door yesterday evening hoping to add my family to his route my Husband informed him that w...
Relationships & Family > Cheating Spouses & Affairs Adultery: Affairs are a "forgivable sin": 24 of 77

I am a proud partner in a 13 year long marriage. My marriage is happy, mostly healthy, we share mutual respect and continue to work at supporting one another and improving our communication. I am especially proud to say that my marriage has survived infidelity. What I think most of us struggle with when we read, "Affairs are...
Creative Writing > Memoirs True gardening stories: My loved one and my garden: 22 of 52

I was a three year old playing outside on my family's farm. Something had happened that I wanted to share with my Mom who was bent over a row of vegetables in our huge garden pulling weeds. When she caught sight of me skipping down the slope towards her she smiled mischievously and said, "Julie, look what I found". I stopped...
Relationships & Family > Cheating Spouses & Affairs Does the Internet encourage cheating: 15 of 30

Does the internet encourage infidelity? Perhaps encourage wouldn't be the best word choice. The internet definitely enables infidelity. The internet provides anonymity, access, and opportunity. Whether a person chooses to become unfaithful physically, simply waste hours away from their families chatting with strangers, or th...
Relationships & Family > Family Bonding How a road trip can foster family communication: 14 of 25

My family survived 8 days in a camper in Arizona! Not only did we survive, but we thrived. We're a military family of three including a nine year old boy. My husband had just returned from a year long deployment in Iraq, his third. As my husband was struggling to regain his place in our household, my son was adjusting to hav...
Relationships & Family > Tips for Marital Happiness From dating to marriage: Rules for success: 41 of 46

Ten Step Program Since the beginning of time mankind has been on the quest for the elusive soul mate. Our one true love, our better half, a life long partner. We seem to feel incomplete without it. But, how do we get there? After eons of life on this planet you'd think there'd be a 10 step program written down somewhere. Now...
Relationships & Family > Cheating Spouses & Affairs Can you really have an affair without anyone getting hurt: 17 of 17

Is it possible to have an affair without anyone getting hurt The very word affair implies a committed relationship. A committed relationship consists of trust, mutual respect, and love. Whether it's a physical affair, a cyber affair, or an emotional affair, someone, somehow, most likely more than one person, is being hurt. I...
Home & Garden > Gardening (Other) Tips and tricks for the lazy gardener: 13 of 13

Ask any Realtor, landscape and curb appeal are important to buyers. How many hours do we spend making sure our yards are appealing, inviting, and complementary to our homes? I grew up on a farm with a Mom who could grow anything, unfortunately I did not inherit her skill. As a military spouse I have found myself faced with n...