One of the hardest jobs for a bride-to-be is not in choosing a wedding gown for her big day (a woman will always know when her eye catches the perfect dress), but in choosing whom to bestow the "honor" of maid of honor to. It can be such a dilemma that it may even cause a lot of anxiety for her, especially if she has more than one really close girl friend. She may be torn in different directions, not wanting to hurt the feelings of one or the other.

However, no wedding has to follow any set pattern or tradition. Each wedding is, and should be, a very unique experience and designed to the tastes and preferences of the bride and groom. Although traditional weddings have their place and can be an excellent guideline to follow, as not to add any extra burden onto a couple during the planning stages, it doesn't always have to follow any set rules. In fact, when a couple foregoes tradition, whether in a small way or on a grand scale, it can make for a very memorable occasion for both the couple and their guests. It would also be rather boring for guests to attend wedding after wedding if they all followed the identical format. A little uniqueness can make a big difference.

Back in the day, when I was making my wedding plans, I too was torn on a very important decision. It wasn't about my maid of honor or brides maids, but on whom I should have walk down the aisle with me. Tradition dictates that the bride's father is usually the one to carry that honor. Although I respected my father very much, I just never felt he was that instrumental in my upbringing. My mother was always the one who was there for me, through thick and thin. I felt it would be a dishonor to give my father the spotlight while my mother sat alone in the front pew. So, after going through much thought, I decided to throw tradition out the window and have both my parents walk me down the aisle. It was a decision that I will always be happy that I made.

So, being that a wedding is a very special day for two people, it only seems fitting that you surround yourself, and your day, with the people who are most important to you. That would definitely include your dearest and closest friends. Having them in your wedding party, and giving them their rightful place of honor, would make that day all the more special, and having them share it with you.

There are even advantages to having two maids of honor. The position carries a lot of responsibilities. All the better, if those were carried out

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