Marital bliss? Isn't that an oxymoron? When you first fall in love, everything is rosy. The highs feel magnificently high because you have someone to share them with. The lows don't feel quite as low because nothing is as bad as it seems when you are in love. You get married and this bliss follows you into your married life. For a while, you overlook your partner's flaws and just bask in the glow of love. This is called the honeymoon phase.

At some point, the honeymoon phase comes to a screeching halt. All of a sudden you can't look past the little hairs that he left when he shaved this morning. You can't stand the whistling his nose makes when he eats. The way he drinks from the orange juice cartons makes you want to gag.

Before I got married, all I ever heard was that marriage was a lot of work. I thought people were crazy because my fianc and I got along great. We had a similar sense of humor, the same views on life, a ton of things in common. And most importantly we loved each other. I never in a million years thought that the honeymoon phase would end.

But it did. I remember the day it happened. I walked into our kitchen and there were two cabinets open. My husband wasn't in the room looking in the cabinets. In fact, he wasn't even home. I couldn't imagine why he would leave the cabinets open. Not that it was a big deal but it was just strange and it made me want to run in and slam them shut. I didn't want to overreact so I casually brought it up at dinner that night. He didn't even realize that he had done it. Like I said, no big deal. A couple of weeks later, the same thing happened. I couldn't believe I was married to a chronic cabinet opener. That led to a big fight that night.

And there were other little things like leaving the dishes in the sink when the dishwasher was not even a full step away, letting the shower drip, throwing dirty clothes in a pile on the floor. I am not saying that I am innocent victim of my husband's imperfections. I am sure I drove him crazy as well hitting the snooze a hundred times before getting up, taking hours to get ready while he waited, talking on the phone to my mother when we should have been spending time together. And after we have a baby, forget about it. He didn't help enough with this, I didn't help enough with that. It was all out war.

So how to get that feeling of bliss back? It is possible.

Bliss Tip #1: Communication is the key. It isn't always

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