A marriage without sex is a sign that something is seriously wrong with the marriage. This is a more common problem than you might think, because this isn't something that most people want to talk about to coworkers, or even to very close friends. How common is this problem? Type "sexless marriage" into your search engine, and look at just how many links pop up! This is happening to lots of married people. If you are living in a marriage without sex, realize that you are not the only person in the world who is having this difficulty.

Intimacy is a huge part of a marriage. Sex is a celebration of the love between two people. Sex is a way to reconnect, to strengthen emotional bonds, to reaffirm that you are loved. Sex is a way to nurture and be nurtured. People who are deeply religious might decide to not have sex at all until after they are married. Sex is a very important part of a marriage! If you are living together, sharing a home and income, and dividing up the household tasks, but have no sexual intimacy whatsoever, then you have basically become "friends" or "roommates" despite being married to each other. One could argue that a marriage without sex is no longer really a marriage. This is especially true for married couples who have gone years and years without having much intimacy with each other.

What causes a marriage to be without sex? There are many reasons that could be contributing to this problem.

(1)Health Problems

Sometimes the problem is a medical one. There are many diseases that can cause someone to lose their desire to have sex. A variety of medications (both prescription and non prescription) can also kill someone's libido. Birth control medications, oddly enough, can cause some women to lose their sex drives, or to have difficulty having sex. It's not always obvious. If you are in a sexless marriage, one thing you can do is get to a doctor, (or get your spouse to a doctor), and be honest. Tell the doctor that you and your spouse are not having sex anymore, and ask the doctor if this is due to a medical reason. Perhaps the doctor can find out the cause, and then offer some solutions.

(2)Past Trauma

If you, or your spouse, experienced sexual abuse in the past, this can create problems in your sex life today. Even if the abuse happened years, or even decades ago, if the person has not dealt with all of the emotions and physical responses that sexual abuse survivors experience, then he or she is not

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