Whether you are a man or a woman there may come a time when you see a person who you feel an instant connection with and whom you really want to get to know. Bridging that gap between being a stranger to letting them know how you feel can be a little intimidating for most people.

When we take a chance and go out on a limb we risk rejection. However, never taking that extra step into the unknown could just mean that our attractive stranger becomes the one that got away. Rather like a fisherman who forever tells his friends that there was once this amazing fish which he let slip through his fingers, you could be left wondering if your stranger was, in-fact, 'the one'.

To avoid the one that got away syndrome you will need to be proactive in initiating communication with the person whom you admire.

Although we all like to be singled out as special the specialness of some encounters has been squeezed out by certain people who have gone before us and who may have left our stranger weary of chance get togethers with people who they don't know.

Women particularly can suffer from having had unwanted attention from a few men who proceed badly and then spoil the chances of a future prince charming's endeavors to catch the attention of his would be princess.

The way to over-come this obstacle is to avoid all of the cheesy, over-used one liners and crude jokes which some people mistakenly believe will impress the person that they like. The truth is that we have all heard them before and secretly groan with embarrassment when someone tries to use them on us.

Originality and genuineness is far more likely to gain the attention of another person in a positive way.

Paying someone a real compliment, as opposed to one made up especially to illicit a result, can be effective in letting the other person know that they are being admired. The compliment needs to be aimed at the other person as an individual, but not 'too' personal.

Making remarks about their physique is a no go area with a stranger as are references regarding sexy subjects. Cheekiness can be fun but there is a fine line between what is amusing and what is just downright rude and it is best to stay clear of this area until you know someone well enough to be aware of their personal limits.

Kindness is a far safer way to go if you are out to impress. Opening a door for the other person, offering to carry a heavy bag to their car or handing them a handkerchief when they sneeze will be noticed

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