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I never thought I'd be breaking into voice mail,checking emails, wailing into the night,clinging to his legs and being dragged across the floor like a rag doll begging my cheating husband not to, leave me! It's a shame really, it's the kind of action that deserves an Oscar only in this case it brought humiliation and pain. It's really something you wished you hadn't done, but having said that it was a whole process that I had to go through.

The most amazing thing about a bad relationship is that if you don't acknowledge that things are wrong that something foul is going unnoticed then something will come along to make you take notice. When I found out that my husband was having affair, for a while I tried to deny it, pretended that I was making things up until I was faced with the evidence. He made it pretty obvious that he wanted out. He stopped hiding the calls and the gifts. He didn't care what time he came home, what he needed was a reaction from me to help stage his exit.

It wasn't until I sought a counselor that my eyes really opened. I learned a lot of who I was and why I seemed to be accepting this behavior. First and for most I didn't feel like I deserved anything better, that it was alright for him to treat me this way. It was only after a lot of personal work that I realized that I didn't have to change who I was, I only had to change who I loved. When I felt love for myself only then did I feel I was worthy of love and respect and with that came freedom. I stopped denying the situation and begging him to come home and acknowledged that our relationship was over.

It's been almost two years and him leaving me for another woman was the best thing that ever happened to me. It didn't seem like it at the time but looking back I love who I've become. It's like being introduced to myself all over again. Once one begins to love herself they soon realize that no one can take that away from them and that if he leaves you for another woman it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you but it's a wake up call to heed to the beautiful person in you. The person who always seemed to take the back seat can now take the driver seat of their own life!

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