The church is filled with flowers and soft music is playing in the background; the pews are filled with people that have tissues in hand crying more than they have ever cried before. Funerals are a time to gather together and say a formal goodbye to those that have passed on but they are not for everyone. While the idea of remembering someone you cared for and celebrating their life is a nice one the idea of gathering together can overwhelm some people. There are flowers, music, the minister says a few words of kindness when going over the life of the one that has passed away and their are tears shed; all this is done to have closure for those that are still here.

Funerals will help to get those that are in denial of the death out of the denial. There are all sorts of things that happen at funerals and a million different ways to do the same thing. There are some that would prefer to grieve alone and in their own way instead of in a public display but some people go because they have no choice.

Funerals are crowded and there are some that panic at the thought of crowds. They feel as if they can not breathe the whole time they are there. There are people at funerals that will try and comfort you; some of them are not very good at it and will make it worse. That was not their intention but they do not know you well enough to know what to say or that for some they should not say anything.

There are some people that funerals are not for because the thought of a dead body in the room with them makes them panic. The body in the coffin will not hurt you and they know this it is merely the thought that makes them not want to go anywhere near the funeral home for the services.

Funerals are not for those that do not care to be seen crying in public. Some people do not show emotion and they refuse to cry no matter what. They do not care to attend the service because they do not wish to have others see them cry. The fact that everyone around them is crying makes them uncomfortable and they are afraid that there will be those awkward silences when someone comes up them to tell them that they are sorry for the loss of the loved one.

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