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There are so many books today that give 1001 tips on how to make friends. There are even books that give tips on even making friends of the opposite sex under the banner of pick up lines. It is amazing then that some still find it hard to make friends especially when they are put in a new environment.

One such person is me. It is very interesting that I constantly go to my brother's place but have never got to know even one of his neighbors despite the fact that he stays in a flat. I just guess that some people are just more outgoing then others and are always quick to chat up new people. This is because I am the kind of person who will not go talking to everyone in a bus, cyber caf or street corner making friends. I am not the kind of loud mouthed people who you can easily notice when they enter a room.

I am normally the one who would enter seat quietly and watch events as they happen quietly. I prefer to watch and learn first then engage and therefore for me making friends takes a lot of time. However, once you become my friend, I tend to open up and become very willing to be with you and help you out whenever you ask for it, off course respecting your space. So below I give tips on how to make friends for a person that is not so out going for me.

Firstly, I advise that a quite person like me should not go out of character to make friends. You don't need to start going to a bar to make friends or become a superstar. Just be yourself. For sure out of the 6 billion people that are there in the world there are many others like you. So keep your daily routine but try to be a little bit more social.

By this, I mean, join a group of people with similar interests like you have. Actively attend those meetings and offer volunteer yourself for different tasks. It is likely that during your numerous interactions with the people in the group, you shall develop a few friends. What is nice about this is that you can take you time to know people and their characters before deeply engaging with them. Since your concentration in a friendship is quality and not quantity, you will have enough time to get exactly that from your friends.

Also use your existing network of friends to develop new friends. It is likely that the friends that you have are just like you and therefore it is likely that their friends will be just like both of you. Since on average people tend to have not more than ten very close friends. It is likely that if you get to know two more additional friends from each of your ten friends then you shall have thirty friends in total. For a person like me you prefers deep relationships that really too much to handle.

After developing your deep friends, then you can have a list of acquaintances with whom you keep regular contact with or just form part of the members of the group that you have joined. For some of us, we see it as a crime to have few close friends but in reality, Life tends to be much easier with far less people gossiping about you and to impress. Moreover, it is the close friends that help you through difficult times and always stand by your side. It is with this few friends that you can therefore enjoy reading books, going for movies, hanging out together and just helping out in regular household chores. In deed if that's enough to make you happy and spend quality time with your friends then do it.

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