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of his keeping such secrets from his wife, before he ever added to the hurt, such as by telling anyone else such a thing? Yes, of course there would be those previous hurts; plus the hurt from her learning that he has been thus closing her out, and so also making both her and their relationship be limited and otherwise pay for things in his past. So would she really want him to feel as if he had to keep such "secrets" from her? Of course she wouldn't want him to feel that way!

Now remember: "What's fair is fair", right? Right!
Therefore, since a wife should want her husband to feel free to tell her anything, so also should a husband want his wife to feel free to tell him anything, including anything from her past, and that includes anything from her "romantic past".
Indeed in both the husband and the wife should feel that they can feely tell each other anything, free of anything, including any "jealousy" which would make either him or her feel wrongly "censored", etc. After all, whether anybody admits it or not, such jealousy is actually fearful insecurity, and such insecurity has no place in love, and can ruin it every time.

Of course "best friends" have their place, unique in contrast to anyone else, but husbands and wives are at least supposed to be "one", thus the term "better half".

So, to be fair, ladies and gentleman, you would want your husband or wife (if you are married), with whom you are at least supposed to be free to have more openness and honesty than with anybody else, to feel free to tell you anything, right? Now understand that if you are truly honest and forthright with yourself, without any evasiveness to the contrary against this, and if you are observant enough of yourself and others, especially if you have enough life experience long enough to see this, the truth of your "Yes" answer to that question is supported by your "Yes" answers to all, that's "all", of the following questions, or unsupported by your "No" answers to any, that's "any", of the following questions: Do you know most everything about your past, including your (quote) "romantic past"? Do you make sure you don't still hold any person and/or part of it against yourself? After everything you know about your past, both any good things and any not so good things, do you still love yourself enough to be open, honest, and forthright with yourself? Even after all of the things you did right and all of the things you did wrong", or even after all of your "masterpieces" and "mistakes", are you still living with yourself and any others, without already having condemned yourself, acting as your own self-lynching "kangaroo court", "self-alienating", "judge, jury, and executioner" (and without thus also, in "ripple effect", doing the same to anybody else)? And so, are you still living with yourself, even with anything and everything in your past, and all the opportunities you've had, or any opportunity which you may have now to learn (if you don't already know) that you cannot truly both live with and love anyone else, even with anything and everything in their past, if you can't live with and love yourself at all, even with anything and everything in your past?

The heart of the matter is this: Would you want your husband, if you're a married woman, or your wife, if you're a married man, to either already know, or else realize the same things here? Yes?
Yes! Ok then, let wives feely tell their husbands anything, including anything from their past, including anything from their "romantic past", and let husbands feely tell their wives anything, including anything from their past, and including anything from their "romantic past".

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