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Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. In fact, feeling jealous towards another is not only a sign of insecurity, it's the whole billboard detailing how you feel about yourself and not much of what you feel for others. Unless of course, there is merit to your emotion. Catching a cheating spouse for instance. Who wouldn't be jealous?

I never felt the need to possess anyone in such a restricting way that I was jealous of who they knew or where they were going. I was confident in the love we shared. I felt happy my mate had friends and would often do stuff without me. It made me feel secure that I could go out with my friends without chains. I was confident in myself. I never believed jealousy was in my nature. And then came the cheating mate. Not only cheating, but stupid enough to get caught by me. I not only saw green, but red as well. Anger was the first emotion I expressed while catching the scoundrels. Jealousy came later as I nearly forgave them. Thankfully, I walked away with my dignity, and the bank book.

It took betrayal for me to feel jealous. For a while I doubted myself. I wondered why? I even blamed myself. But what did I do besides trust someone? Thankfully I was only twenty when it happened. Now at 48, I've had plenty of time to pick myself up, brush myself off and begin again.

Jealousy is not restricted to couples. I have had friends who were jealous of my friendships with other people and siblings who show jealousy for the way family members love and react to me. This type of green monster only haunts the insecure. I feel secure in who I am. I have faith in those I choose to love and respect for all who love me.

Allowing jealousy to dictate your emotions can ruin good feelings. Green is a pretty color, but not when it flows through your heart and head. Feeling good about yourself is numero uno when you take the chance to love others.

My mother and I talked often of jealousy. She was a very jealous person. She told me I was lucky as I never exhibited jealousy as a child, and still didn't as an adult. She confessed to feeling jealous all throughout her life. I can honestly say it caused her only grief. Mom once said jealousy goes along with loving someone. Even though I always felt my mom knew everything. She was wrong on that one. Jealousy comes from your own insecurity and lack of confidence in yourself. It has little to do with love.

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