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In this hustle and bustle life, the focus has seemed to shift from family values to values in the market place, and personal values on paper. This trend has caught on so much so that even in our preteen years we have credentials for future mates that include the size of his/her bank account among other shallow frills. But what happens when you find the one, and things have lasted, yet you find that the spark is gone? People need to realize that a relationship is work and more often than not there has to be some effort to keep a relationship healthy. Some fun ways to keep the spark in a long term relationship are:

1. The most obvious thing I can imagine is taking some time apart, whether is be a week in The Bahamas, a night out at a restaurant, or a meal that you have cooked yourself, set some time apart to reconnect with your partner. Talk about things that have been on your mind and most importantly listen to your partners thoughts and concerns. While not the most romantic thing you can do, taking time to truly listen and process what your spouse says, clear the air of any conflict, and simply spend some quality time with your mate can solidify a closeness that is essential for a successful relationships.

2. Leave little notes. Finding a hidden note in your briefcase that says "I Love You" or "I can't wait to see you tonight", and especially notes of a sexual nature can leave your partner anticipating and thinking about you all day. This is particularly nice for people who are not necessarily the touchy-feely type but still want to express their feelings to their partner.

3. Impromptu Sex. Surprising a mate in unexpected situations in the mood for a little fun creates a sense of spontaneity and excitement that few other things can. This will make you and your partner feel young and carefree again. Obviously there are some serious things to take into consideration when attempting this method, but when it is planned well it can be the best thing.

3.5 An addendum of sorts to the method above is to shake-up your actual sexual routine, not just the time and place. By trying new things in the bedroom you can discover yourself sexually together and grow. The disclaimer about this idea is to ensure that you are your mate are completely comfortable in these new situations. If you are excited about trying something new, while your mate is only feeling luke-warm about their sexual adventuring, do not push it. Instead reassure your spouse that they are in a completely judgment

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