by Raymond L. Marr

Created on: April 04, 2008

Looking back on times past, do you realize how many marriages may of been saved had they experienced living in the same house first. Instead of finding out when they are already committed that they are just not compatible living together. Maybe it is something small, a slight habit one person has that drives the other person crazy. Or perhaps before marriage the front that we all put up. Come on you can admit it, we all have our public persona. Never really did fall until you were married. And suddenly who that person actually is becomes apparent. You find out through experience that this alternate persona long hidden is not anything like what you expected. There are so many different reasons why it makes sense to live together first. Of course there are pros and cons just like with anything. There was one comment made, that if you are living together then why marry. Well in all honesty, if you love that person to such an extent you can see yourself with them until the day you die then of course you would marry. At least by living together first you know more of what to expect. You can see where your life might be before having to deal with all it when you are officially married. On that same point, without awareness the divorce can be a mess, in preparation by living together you know it is a quality decision and not just in the moment.

When a couple makes the decision to first be engaged, it is best to then try the waters. To live together to see how it would be. In engagement you know the possibility is there but in a sense you can take it for a test run. If all seems well in that time period then go ahead and take the next step. If during that time this person you care so much for begans to change for the worst then you can see what you may of been in for in the actual process of marriage. At that point the decision can be made to take it to the next level or just disconnect now. It may be difficult certainly but a lifetime of an experience you would not of been happy with can take a much deeper toll.

I am not saying I do not believe in marriage or its sanctity thereof, I am just saying it is a different world we live in now. Things change often for the better and not for the worst. Households are different in these days and so must be the choice to either enter into this life time promise that is marriage, or to disconnect when the hurt is only a scratch and not a deep gash. Its a different society now we as humans can and do adapt to change, and views are very different now then they once were.

Make a quality decision in your life mate by taking time it will make a considerable difference in the long run.

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