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Marriages and live in relationships often seem to follow a pattern. The first year is a period of adjustment for both partners, and it's one which can be peppered with bouts of fighting and tears. Most often, the make-up period is fun and exciting.

But as the years progress, and family and careers gain priority, it often takes a toll on a relationship. What was once an endearing trait becomes annoying. While it was easy to forgive and forget, now holding grudges becomes a daily occurrence. And the romance and spark that was once predominant now takes a backseat.

So, how does one keep a long term relationship fun and fresh? Firstly, you need to know that you have to work on it. Most people take their relationships for granted. But biologically, the body chemistry that makes our hearts flutter during a new relationship is gradually replaced with body chemistry geared more towards attachment. So now that you know this, try the following tips to get your chemistry back on track.

1.MAKE A DATE And don't wait for Valentine's Day or your birthday. Pick a day in the week or month and make it date evening'. Do something fun together, but don't make it boring a trip to the theater can be exciting, a dinner at a fast food joint is not.

2.DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT Make a list of things you would not normally do with your partner. It could be sexual like renting an x-rated movie or visiting an adult store. Or non sexual, like going sky diving or taking a water skiing course. Whatever turns you both on and gets the adrenalin pumping. And then do it.

3.DO THE NORMAL TOO A walk in the park may be boring (to some), but it's also very relaxing and just what busy couples need. Try and bring some relaxation into your lives. Maybe going for a jog or a bicycle trip together. How about bowling with the family? Anything that calms you down and lets you appreciate each other's company.

4.KNOCK THEIR SOCKS OFF Do something that will wow' them and make them remember why they fell in love with you. After awhile, we forget what our partners were like, and come to expect certain behavior from them. Do the unexpected. Leave your baggy pj's off and wear sexy lingerie. Or greet your partner with a maid's outfit' when he returns from work. Instead of going out on a boy's night, surprise your wife with a limo ride and make it a hot date.

5.CHANGE IT UP The bedroom is not the only place for sex and while it may be difficult if you have children at home, shaking things up is a sure fire way to bring back

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