by Pat Lunsford

Created on: April 01, 2008   Last Updated: November 05, 2009

Considering the extreme consequences, there is no excuse for infidelity. However, there are genuine circumstances in which people aren't getting the sexual satisfaction they need. Or sometimes the one suffering sexual frustration feels guilty or too embarrassed to admit it. Nevertheless, infidelity is not the solution.

Sex is a strong human instinct and a normal biological function. The bible says that a man and wife should come together often.

"The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency." (I Corinthians 7:4)

A man and wife need to communicate when it comes to sex- honestly and openly. Questions such as, "Are you satisfied with our sex life?" "Is there anything about our sex life that makes you feel uncomfortable?"

If one of you feels awkward talking about it, it's up to the other to try and make them feel more relaxed with the subject. Sometimes, the one with the highest sex drive may feel too guilty to say they're not satisfied or fears offending the one they love. Since your relationship is monogamous, you are the only one the other has to satisfy them and vice versa. Sex is a very important part of marriage.

Perhaps counseling would help. Counselors know how to get to the root of the problem without belittling either party. Jesus knows everything we feel, and by the way, one of his titles is Mighty Counselor. He created us so he knows how we "work."

If you are suffering sexual frustration but feel too guilty or embarrassed to mention it to your spouse, or even if you have talked it over but with no resolution, take the problem to Jesus Christ. He knows exactly what we are feeling.

If you are a victim of infidelity, don't be quick too blame yourself as so many victims of infidelity tend to do. At the same time, don't dismiss your spouse so quickly either. We all make poor choices in life. Infidelity hurts big time, and infidelity is the worse kind of betrayal, but is this offense worth ending your marriage?

Take it to Jesus and let him be the judge. He can help you through it. If you don't know Jesus, he's omnipresent which means he's everywhere at once so why not talk to him?.

"Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me."

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