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Parents often are responsible for the behavior of their children as adults. Good parenting is very much reflected in the behavior of well adjusted grown children just as poor parenting has the unfortunate result of producing troubled adults. Parenting does make a difference in how kids are able to function in their later lives out in the adult world. Kids who are emotionally or physically abused, neglected, spoiled or who have their behaviors over compensated in childhood, often wind up with emotional, social or other difficulties as young adults. These behavioral problems will then need to be overcome before they are able to lead happy and productive lives as mature adults in a "grown up" world

Often parents who suffer from drug, alcohol or other social issues may not even bother to take the time to attempt to act as role models for their children, these kids are then forced to grow up without much of a true idea of what exactly is expected from them out in the adult world. They may also grow up displaying a variety of abnormal social and emotional behaviors that will have to be corrected within their adulthood. If they are unable to assimilate they remain dysfunctional people within society and often wind up with drug or alcohol problems themselves, in jail, or simply passing this unfortunate behavior pattern onto their own children.

Too often parents attempt to be 'friends' or 'buddies' with their children rather than taking the assertive step of guiding their children's behavior. In these situations the child is often given rewards for both positive and negative behavior and never really has the opportunity to learn the true consequences that can be associated with the two behaviors. Once they reach adulthood these kids often believe that they can do whatever they choose and there won't be a harsh punishment for their misbehaviors. They learn very quickly the truth and can wind up extremely frustrated and unable to deal with this new form of reality.

Another common parenting mistake occurs when individual parents vie for a child's affection, this is often most obvious in cases of divorce where one or another parent feels the need to overcompensate a child in the reduced time that they have together. Children learn early to play the game of putting one parent against the other in a bidding war for their time and attention. This is a trait that might work with their parents, but when they enter the real world as adults, this same little game can backfire on

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