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Communication can be alot easier done with a father. I am someone whom has had both married parents, so I know exactly how it feels to have both of them in the household. If my siblings and I ever did any wrong we would definitely get the mean side of our mother, but my father was more understanding. He would sit down with us, ask us why we did it, have us make up, and teach us of the consequences.

From the time I was a young child, until my adult life I have always had communication problems with my mother. For some reason she has always been alot harder to please. Whatever I did in my daily life, to academics, and sports, she always felt it was never to her standards.

Now that I am an adult one would think the communication would be better, but it's not. Even with my marriage and children she can't seem to find a way to relax and just talk to me. Instead of taking the time to teach my children peacefully what they are doing wrong, she rather sit there and yell her lungs out.

On the other hand my father was the best listener, and adviser. From my childhood to adult life I have always been able to communicate with him. I could sit with him on his bed, talk about each other's day, school, work, and family. If I did something wrong he would hug me and say "you will learn from this, it will get better." I would sit there cry my eyes out and he would hand me his handkerchief.

My father has passed on and I truly miss having our daily conversations. I thought with the passing of my father, my mother and I would become better at communicating, but we haven't one bit. She still disagrees with my everyday life, so she rather not waste her breath. If you could be here now, you would be disappointed at how she is able to communicate with her sisters, and her son, but can't have a decent conversation with me.

So, as you can see I have struggled communicating with my mother throughout my life. I envy my friends who have a great relationship with their mothers, but I honestly believe that it is easier to communicate with a father. Don't take it for granted when your father is gone and you never gave him the time of day, like you did your mother. Father's can be great listeners, they may even sit there with you and shed a tear or too.

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