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For ever I have used certain women as my standards.

I think of the lady i know or once knew as the standards of best or worst. i think of the best that I have been in a relationship with as my standards. I have messed up some pretty good relationships that way.

You have to remember , people do not come into this world to live up to your standards and you are not here to do the same either. So if you are breaking up for same selfish standards issue, you might want to rethink what you are about to do. Some day you might find yourself in a date date die life. and find that you have been in and out of so many relationships, that you didn't even notice that the person who was your "standards best" has been and gone and you where still not happy. That is your fault no if ands or buts. That one clearly is your fault.

Some times you just need to lighten up and realize that "hey ok my emotions aren't in this anymore, I guess i can ride it out and see what fun things I can see" because you can only love so hard for so long, But you can be lonely for life, and you can regret for life.

You do not have to love the one you are with. If you aren't with the person you love, you knew that when you got into this relationship to begin with. Do not act surprised that that this person can not live up to your expectations. You never had that in mind in the first place. You after the fun and or experience.

Don't get into a relationship where you know you are never going to love the person and then spend everyday telling them that you love them. Saying "I love you" is just an excuse for a lack of ideas and or creativity.

Stop saying you love them if you do not love them, but be sure to tell them what you enjoy about them, especially when they do something enjoyable. be creative, not emotionally lazy.

Breaking up is only what you do when you know it is better that the person is completely out of your life. That relationship is your fault for getting into it and not bailing out at the first sign.

enjoy things that you have, quit expecting more, drift away from what is not enjoyable.

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