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With options such as abortion or child abandonment out there, adoption is a wonderful choice to make for those who cannot keep a child for any reason. It allows a child to be placed with someone who cannot (or chooses not to) have a child of their own, someone who will love that child and provide more than just the basic needs. The alternatives are far worse, and adoption helps those on both sides of the issue by providing solutions both can live with. Rather than being kept in an unhappy home or killed before there has been a chance at life, a child can be given a new and better home.

There are many reasons someone might give a child up for adoption. Perhaps they are too young to have a baby. Maybe they simply don't want or don't like children. It could be that they can't afford a child or that they're in an abusive relationship and worry about the safety aspects of life with a little one. One could brainstorm a billion different scenarios that justify adoption. The sad thing is that all of the same justifications could be assigned to validating abortion, and that is exactly where the benefits of adoption come in. In many ways, it is far easier to go through with an abortion than to nurture a life only to ultimately give it away. To a lesser degree, this is also true of child abandonment, where a baby is left in a garbage can or a doorstep, though it is puzzling that someone would go through pregnancy and birth, only to leave a baby somewhere that cannot guarantee the safety, survival or placement of that baby.

Adoption and abandonment are not the only disturbing options in this discussion. Many children are kept by their birth parents, only to face abuse, neglect and mistreatment, sometimes resulting in their deaths. My husband was adopted out at five years old. It wasn't actually his mother and step-father who chose to do it, but his adoptive parents who demanded it. His mother was young and suffered from alcoholism; his father had disappeared when he was a baby. What his adoptive parents witnessed was a young child playing outside at all hours, being force fed pudding and Jell-o as his main form of sustenance, and overall being neglected. They approached his mother and gave her the option of giving him up for adoption to them or being reported for child neglect. His mother made the right decision (in this case) and gave him up for legal adoption to the people who became his new parents. His quality of life was greatly improved, he got a good education,

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