What a perfect timing to stumble across this topic. I am currently in an epic fight with my sister, it has stemmed from the fact that I don't like her partner. This not being from physical abuse, but the fact that my sister has continued to be hurt by this person over and over again. Just recently (lastnight to be exact) I was made aware of the fact that she has been "beat up" on more than one occasion. I was never made aware of this fact by my sister, I would assume because she knows how I will respond. Someone just hit her once one time and well, I didn't control my reaction. The only thing I can think is that she didn't tell me of this new situation because she knew how I would respond.

My mother confirmed today that my sister did in fact tell her about it as well. I am in a state of shock, this may come as a shock to many people however this is my opinion so I will state it. If you are in an abusive relationship and need my help, I will be there. I will help you leave the situation and get the help you need. If you go back and it happens again, I will be there once again. However if you continue to put yourself in that situation well what can I say except "sucks to be you". Yes that is harsh, but if the shoe was on the other foot and I would in no way expect someone to be there for me each and everytime this happened,when I continue to go back to the situation. I know it will happen again if it has happened more than once already.

If a dog continues to bite me everytime I pet it, well I will quit petting that dog. Simple as that! My outlook on abusive relationships is if the person being abused wants help they will ask you for it. If they continue to go back and be beat then they are asking for that instead of help. The only situation where that might not be true, is if the woman feels she is in danger if she leaves. Which quite often, yes that is the case. But as with my sister that is NOT the case. I am not going to be a supporter of you being abused. I feel if I continue to be there for you and be your rock or safety net, then you will continue to fall, knowing you will be caught.

We live in a harsh tough world and tough love is often times what is needed. What outrages me is the fact that your sister or friend..anyone. Can be upset and mad that someone is abusing you and tell you to leave do all they can for you, but if you continue to go back they too would no longer feel sorry for you. Yes you should let your feelings be known, I have told

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