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by Pamela Henderson

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Children follow by example.
From infancy a child is able to learn from their parents input.A child ,however young is able to feel the vibe of their parent.The hugs and cuddles show them reassurance and provide them with the knowledge that in their parents eyes they are something special.Eye contact can speak volumes,allowing the child to feel appreciated.

Confident parents can often instill confidence into their offspring.An upbeat approach towards life is refreshing and also contagious.That happy outlook can have a dramatic effect on a child's well being.Of course it would be impossible to be cheerfully optimistic on a permanent basis,but having an equilibrium is essential.For parents to air their views in front of their off-spring is counter productive.Any discussions that are needed between parents can surely take place away from tiny ears !

Chastisement is a great issue,with all of the recent media hype surrounding it.Obviously to a greater extent the law is right,we cannot go around smacking our children in public.It humiliates the parent,and does very little to calm a child who is already in full flow!
But how a child is chastised is make or break for their character.If the tone of voice can be changed to give warning ,then well done you! Any other form of punishment IE:harsh words etc may be far better carried out in private. As well as testing your parenting skills to the limit,these private sessions have lasting effects on a child.How they are carried out is crucial.The ability to diminish self esteem by chastising is great.

The majority of children and adults respond well to praise.It is constructive,it creates a good inner feeling.Its good for our self esteem,its productive.A big thank you for a small thing will go a long way.Most of us respond to a positive action.
Don't be afraid to tell your child that `You love them` .When they want rewarding do it with words not gifts ! Say to them how precious they are !

Encourage them wholeheartedly with their studies.But we cannot all produce a young Einstein.
With each piece of school work they show you,pick out the best points ,maybe make a token reward system.But accept that as long as they are doing their level best and trying hard thats fine! In looking for the positive points of their work and praising them it heightens their self esteem ,the impetus to succeed is created.

There is nothing more rewarding than seeing a child thrive ,and it is quite noticeable that children who are given praise and encouragement do so in leaps and bounds.

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