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In theory, the concept of 'just friends' does exist, though, in practice there are too many obsticles to make it that simple. Conscious or subconscious, at some point during the 'just friends' relationship, one or both people involved have thought, 'what if we were more than just friends?' This goes for married, dating, and single people alike. Humans, by nature, are curious animals and we want to know 'what if.' Although due to different standards that either society, or ourselves, have set, these 'what ifs' stay hidden and linger somewhere in the darkness of the relationship.

These random thoughts and feelings will come and go. They could even feel dormant for long periods of time, but will ignite during certain circumstances. These thoughts could range from a lustful desire for sex, all the way to spending a romantic under the stars holding each other in your arms until the night fades to golden rays of day.

In either case, those are definitely not thoughts that 'just friends' should be thinking.

'Tis a sad truth indeed, for I often times get along with the other sex better than my own, and I would be glad to be 'just friends' with a very interesting person who may or may not be in a serious relationship. Of course, at some point feelings begin to pile, thoughts and wonders, and sooner or later a thresh-hold is broke and something happens. Perhaps one of those involved directly mentions that they have had such intimate thoughts. Or perhaps somebody indirectly related such as the boyfriend or girlfriend (or spouse) of one of those involved begins to catch on and starts to disapprove of the relationship you have started.

To either end, the relationship will most likely crash and burn there, or will slowly fade into the past and you will begin to make and/or receive those few and far between phone calls of a dying friendship.

My advice: savor the moment you have, do not fear the end. Enjoy the friendship while it is. And when it does come to that inevitable end, please, remember it as it was, not of what it became.

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