by Paiten Paul

Created on: March 26, 2008

Sadly, even in the twenty first century there is still stigma attached to something as commonplace and natural as sexual intercourse. Terms like premarital sex' and fornication' are shoved down people's throats in order to demonize ones own urges and further delude young people. Simply put, premarital sex is just sex before marriage- the end. When consenting adults choose to engage in intimacy, no matter how, why, or when, it is nobody else's business and should remain that way.

Regarding sexuality, America is a very confused nation. We see sex used to sell everything from hamburgers to cars. And then at the same time people stand by quietly as the supposed moral majority judge and condemn. Our society is caught between two extremes and there is virtually no healthy in between. And thus, topics like premarital sex are still an issue.

People have certain needs and it is important that they realize that it is okay. Sex isn't bad if it's done out of wedlock. It isn't even wrong if it doesn't happen out of love. What is wrong, though, is if it happens out of deceit, to hurt somebody, to manipulate, or some other terrible reason. So long as there is mutual respect and understanding, there is no harm done. Whether one chooses to be intimate with others or not, it is vital that people truly value themselves and hold a deep love for mankind. If somebody is strong minded and mature enough to think that way, the decision to have intercourse will not alter that individual.

Another scary word like promiscuity, is thrown around a lot as well. The number of individuals one chooses to share themselves with is absolutely nobody's business but they're own. And like I mentioned before, if you respect yourself and others, what is the harm done?

Honestly, premarital sex just doesn't hold a light to the many other plagues on society that should be regarded with equal disgust, but unfortunately are not. For example, greed, cut throat competition, deception, selfishness, and excess, are all concepts that are prominent in our modern world. To me, those issues are far more socially damaging than a mere personal choice regarding a private matter that most will never know about anyway.

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