by Victoria Jeffrey

Created on: March 24, 2008

Although times and ways of thinking can change, good, timeless advice remains. This can also be true when it comes to parenting children. Many fads on how to parent come and go (Dr. Spock, anyone?) but sensible advice remains. In this world, when it seems that things are becoming increasingly more difficult, how can we know what advice is best in regards to child rearing? From time immemorial parents had natural authority over their children and that authority is generally recognized by society. Discipline and respect for rules was encouraged in earlier times and creating structure was also important. These things can aid in helping them become well adjusted members of society. The best way to do this, is to start with creating a close and loving marriage. From that can spring a happy family.

1. Create a loving atmosphere at home - The first step in raising healthy, happy children is create a healthy, happy marriage. I'm not talking about creating a fake, Brady Bunch atmosphere, but there needs to be harmony in the marriage if there is to be stability in the family. How do you deal with your spouse? When you are in disagreement or when anger arises how do you treat your wife or husband? How do you handle anger? Do your goals and plans clash with those of your spouse? This will determine how you will treat your children. If you are having issues with your spouse, get these issues resolved before you have children!

2. Don't be afraid to exercise authority as a parent - whether you are the "disciplinarian" in the home or not, establish that you are the parent and that you have the right to make rules and that those rules will be followed. Expect them to be followed. Also, it is important for parents to show a united front on discipline matters and rules of the home. Agree on what is reasonable and back up your spouse in enforcing the rules. Children can detect division and will exploit that. Being too lenient or too harsh is unfair to your children and you will raise children that are maladjusted. Besides, children that grow up around reasonable rules are generally happier. According to Parents magazine, "Children brought up by loving but authoritative parents-those who are supportive of their children yet maintain firm limits-excel academically, develop better social skills, feel good about themselves, and are happier overall than kids whose parents are either too lenient or excessively harsh."

3. Create rules and enforce them - Kids need firm direction and clear

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