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Not sheerly because i am a mother,but i do feel that from a personal point of view that our children felt more at ease discussing their childhood and teenage problems with me.
Most mothers tend to have a `sixth sense` ,they are able to pick up on their child's mood or mannerisms.
The tone of voice can also be a good signal that they have a problem that needs discussing.

I cant give any personal explanation as to why they maybe would not discuss things with their father,suffice to say that as a hard working man he was often away from home for long periods of time.
Hence i was the accessible one.
Being there at the right time is crucial,a child who is worried or feeling fraught needs someone to chat with fairly quickly.
A Father who has just arrived home from a long day at work is probably not going to be the most receptive of people.
There is an acceptance that some fathers may not be able to empathize or relate to their children's problems.But that also could be said of many mothers.
I don't wish to make sweeping generalizations ,but often the female comes over as having a softer approach,often being more tactile,more willing to share and compare emotionally.
Whereas, sadly male emotion can often be misinterpreted as weakness.
My childhood was a totally different affair,my father was someone who was treated with our greatest respect,to the point where he was put upon a pedestal.
This made him a distant figure.
If we over stepped the mark,my mother used to use the well known phrase "Wait until your father gets home !" , which in fact made him even more unapproachable to us as children.
The sensitive subjects that need discussion have always lain with me,though in retrospect I feel my husband would`t have turned any discussion of any kind away.
As the children have progressed into adulthood they certainly have confidence in approaching their father,often talking with him about their fears and worries.
He in return listens ,only offering an opinion if asked.
This probably would have always been the case scenario had he not been so busy providing for us all.

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