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his "baby" from the depredations of the evil woman carrying it, while she is pregnant but at no other time. I never hear anyone suggesting that a husband should force a wife to donate a kidney to their child. I never hear anyone get into a tizzy that a mother didn't donate a pint of O negative to the kids. Somehow it just never seems to be a deciding factor in marital discord or in divorce. And that's odd, because a born child ought to have a closer connection to his father than an unborn child would. And you would think that somewhere, sometime, a parent refused to be a donor for their child on religious grounds if for no other reason. Muslims generally oppose organ donation, for instance, and Jehovah's Witnesses forbid blood transfusion. But these parents acting on their beliefs somehow just about never make the news.

What is it about pregnant women that sets off so many men's inner control freaks in a way that nonpregnant mothers and born children don't? I wish I knew, but meanwhile, I see nothing fair about treating pregnant women as a separate and unequal class with fewer rights than any other class of human being. Furthermore, if a man's right to produce offspring is in question here, I would respectfully suggest that the best time to discuss this matter is before the marriage takes place, not after your wife has gotten pregnant a year earlier than planned and before she's finished college, or two weeks after she's filed for divorce.

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