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Ostracism among children hurts victim as well as perpetrator

by Dianne Martins-Gomes

How might ostracism affect a child's development?


How ostracism might affect a child's development is that the child will feel indifferent, perhaps abandoned, and lonely, unloved, unconfident, unworthy, and undervalued. The ostracism might make the child act and behave in a strange and or awkward manner and will cause the child to regress and become withdrawn from other children and adults as well as everyday activities and situations. The child will be unable to function and cope with life in general. This could cause both cognitive and physical (it might stunt or affect the child's growth) and mental delays.
Also, I think that a child could either attain one or another extreme attitude, either a superiority complex with an overwhelming sense of power and a need to control everything and everyone in their environment or they can partially or completely withdraw from society and family and friends, feeling neglected, alone, insecure and inferior to the world.
Ostracism would cause depression, low self-esteem, insecurity and a fallible (frail/imperfect) sense of justice and oneself. It would cause a child to be extremely self-critical, lose their self-respect and identity therefore this would cause major deficits with the ability to think critically and problem-solve and or conflict resolution as well as issues with social interactions, criticisms and aggression with others.
To exclude or isolate a child is unequivocally detrimental to the independence, upbringing and productivity factor of raising and supporting whole-heartedly good, loveable, self-respected children in our society today!



How might believing one's own race/culture/class is superior affect a child's development?

How believing one's own race/culture/class is superior might affect a child's development is that the child might feel powerful and want to control every aspect of their immediate environment and they might also feel that the world OWES themthe whole sense of superiority, being better and above everyone else. They might feel like what they say goes and that everyone should follow in his or her footsteps. This will lead to bullying other children and aggressive behavior towards adults and the child might verbally and physically lash out and this will lead to problems with violence and or self-abuse.
Actually, this kind of belief is the first step to being or becoming "racist". When a child feels that his race/culture/class is superior or better than this basically is what entitles the chains of racism'. As childhood educators, caregivers, and parents, we must do our very best to communicate and educate and always have intelligent and honest dialogue with our children to help them appreciate and understand, love and respect each other's qualities and differences to create equality amongst the masses as well as for other children's cultures, class and races.

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