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SO WHO DO WE ASK ABOUT THE BIRDS AND THE BEES?

This topic is a hard one to tackle, due to every person being under different circumstances at the time they needed advice. For me, I found it easier to talk with my mom, MOST of the time. Certain things were best tackled by my father, but most were best discussed with my mom. Reason being, I'm a girl, she's a girl. It's much more comfortable talking about female bodily functions and actions with another female. Also, women tend to be more connected on an emotional level, whereas men try to break down problems with a science, not feelings.

One would assume that a son could talk to a father much easier than a mother. It is true that there are certain things that are best shared between father and son. However, a son also struggles with things that a mother can best lend her heart to before a man can. So as I write on this topic, I base it solely on my experiences. Everyones answer to this will be different, because everyone has a different relationship with their parents than I had.

My relationship with my mother as a teen wasn't the best. My family wasn't the hugs and kisses feel good type, and the first time I heard I love you was when I was 18. Whenever I had a problem or a question, I tried to ask someone other than my parents. There were times when I had no one else to turn to but my mother and father. My mom would NEVER discuss the birds and the bees, and things of that nature. If my father discussed it, it would have been with a sarcastic tone.

The good advice I did receive from my parents were about people I dated or were friends with. I do have to say that their initial opinions of people often ended up being true. I knew my parents had good judgment, and I was grateful for it. However, when it came to sensitive issues, I tackled them on my own.

Now as a mother myself, I find my relationship with my parents much stronger. There's not to much I can't talk about with them now. I guess I will never understand why certain things were never discussed as a child. I have learned from this, and have made a plan than when the time comes for my son to be sat down and told sensitive things, I will be there for him. I want him to know that he will be able to talk to his father and I about things that I could not discuss with my parents.

Some teens have a wonderful, open relationship with their parents. For them, it may be just as easy to speak with their father as they can their mother. I think that

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