by Mark Mclaughlin

Created on: March 14, 2008   Last Updated: April 24, 2008

Relationships. We all want to have good ones, but so many of us find ourselves trapped inside troubled ones, wondering "Why did I sign up for this?" The truth is, relationship struggles are a part of life. Evidenced by the increasing number of divorces in this country, the main problem most of us face is dealing with these struggles.

The number one most important thing in any relationship is...now listen closely...commitment. Commitment in every sense of the word. Committing time, energy, love and even money.(I know the last one hurts but come on guys, she deserves it!) It is funny that so many of us spend so much of our time being committed to other things and wonder why the most important thing is falling apart right before our eyes. Sure we are doing a great job at building up our 401K's and our fantasy football team is in the league championship, but at home our relationship is is the dumps. Commitment. I can't stress that word enough. When you decide that your relationship is the most important thing and choose to put as much time into making it right as you do those other less important things, your relationship will thrive.

Appreciation. When I brought this word into my relationship everything changed. I decided to stop nitpicking about everything that she isn't and started appreciating everything that she is. Understand that your significant other wasn't put on this earth to serve you and appreciate all that they do to try to make you happy. The key is not keeping the compliments to yourself. There is no better feeling than the feeling of being appreciated. So the next time your husband surprises you with your favorite latte', or your girlfriend makes you something "cute", make sure you let them know just how important their actions were and just how much they mean to you. Never take anything for granted. We are only on this earth for a short time and every minute is a gift. Appreciate each other and watch the sparks fly.

Lastly, spend time together...quality time. Turn off the television once in a while and enjoy each others company. Talk. It's amazing what will happen when you put down the remote, tune out the rest of the world and just talk. It is great to reminisce about what brought the two of you together and discuss where you want to be in the future. Communication is key and although so many of us guys hate "being emotional", the results it heeds are worth the struggle of letting our guards down every once in a while.

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