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Happily ever after? It depends on where you are in life. Happily ever after usually means the few or few decades after the vows, the troubled years or the romantic years depending on your state of mind or nostalgia. The marriage and the year of the marriage can tell you a lot of things if you are listening. Like all things, happily every after is a state of mind or a moment in time.

The Passionate years
These are the passionate years. Nobody ever said the passionate love years. Yes, they are the passionate love years but they are so much more and that is the problem. Passions are so much more. Love is a poster child of passion but so is the black sheep passion. The hate. This is where I formed all my important opinions until my opinions became important.

The fighting years
The passionate years are also the fighting years. Passion includes much more than love and lust. Passion includes fighting with the one you love and with passion. The fighting years are so rewarding in what you get out them. You become your own person and by necessity fight with other entities.

The Romantic years
The romantic years oddly follow the empty nest years. They even precede them by years but the important thing is the couple can see the "the light at the end of the tunnel." Real romance begins when you can see that your investment was always in another person. She gave birth to your children and she nurtured them with love and affection. She also did it in a way you could never hope or be able to do. Romance really beings when you can look and see beyond yourself.

We've dug a trench dear, years
This is when you begin to see that you have invested so much of your life in another person. You call it love because nothing else can explain it. It is when the film The Fiddler on The Roof begins to make some kind of sense to you. It begins to dawn on you that someone else might love you as much as you loved yourself. Then you realize that you have the same problem as her.

Conclusion
What is living happily ever after? Don't ask me, I don't know yet.

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