by maddie rose

Created on: March 13, 2008   Last Updated: June 26, 2008

One Mistake Can Change Your Marriage

The dangers of infidelity can change your life completely. It not only changes and affects your live, but also the ones surrounding you and the other person. One night, one hour of your time, you make the wrong choice, it can change the karma of what mattered the most of your life. It can lead to lies, upon many lies, and you may not ever being forgiven and bitterness between the spouses, which could last a lifetime.

Infidelity, is a spur of the moment in time, a cheap, sleazy affair. It was not meant to happen, and people will always use this for an excuse, "It just happened." But the truth is we are all adults, responsible for our actions in life. We are also responsible for the consequences in life which we have caused to happen. And the consequences affect everyone, not only yourself, your spouse and the one you cheated with.

There could be children involved. Children whose lives were in a routine, while they were being happy in their day before they find out about their parent, who showed no self control. The children know, maybe for the first time, not only how their parents have disappointed them, but they may rebel against the one they feel who is guilty and take sides. Sometimes, children never get over this. This may effect their decision for marriage later in life and their trusting of people.

Even if the couple divorce, there can be no more trust, there will be the infidelity brought up over and over again. If the couple stays together, it will be extremely hard to learn to trust the other after the commitment and promise was broken. Again, sides could be taken still by children and the infidelity will not be forgotten. Whenever an argument happens, the subject will haunt the couple for years to come.

Don't forget. It took time to build the trust and honesty, between two people to begin with. It will take a long time to get over this too.

A spouse may think infidelity is working and they are getting away with it but sooner or later, it will come out. And that particular spouse will see their world changed. The spouse will see because of what has taken place, other people's worlds now has changed. Life is too fragile to take this chance. You can lose everything you thought you had and loved, cherished the most.

As for the one who helped in the affair, 'the other woman/man', they are left out in the cold, or they try to continue a relationship with the person they were cheating with. The whole ties between them, is based on lies. Therefore, it will never last either.

Show responsibility and good character. Keep your promises to the one you do love.

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