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Considering what a serious, life altering commitment marriage is one would think that everyone would enter into it with the right mind set. Given the staggering statistics that one in two marriages will end in divorce it becomes evident that this is not the case. Here are a few of the worst reasons I have come up with for getting married.

1. All of your friends are getting married and it is pretty lonely on the single scene. Finding the right person to spend the rest of your life with doesn't happen for everyone on the same schedule. Given the divorce rate about half of your friends will have made a bad choice so why rush to follow them.

2. Your biological clock is ticking loudly. While this is an excellent reason to consider whether or not you want to become a parent, it doesn't necessarily mean that you need to jump into marriage. There are many options these days for the conception of a child and adoption is always an option.

3. Your partner is pressuring you for a commitment. If the thought of being married to your current partner doesn't fill you with visions of forever after then it is time to run for the hills not to the wedding chapel. If you get married just because it seems like the obvious next step in your relationship you will be short changing yourself and dooming yourself to unhappiness down the road.

4. You are gay or a lesbian and you don't want to come out. You are cheating yourself and your spouse in this scenario. You can only hide the truth for so long and eventually it will come out and there will be a lot of anger and hurt feelings. It will be much more difficult ten or fifteen years down the road when there are children involved trying to explain your sexual orientation.

5. Your name is already on the tea towels. We all know how this played out . It would have been much better if this wedding had been called off before it ever happened. Certainly there are two handsome sons but the unhappiness that was suffered by the parties to this marriage were terrible on both sides.

6. You are trying to recapture your youth. We see this all too often in second and third marriages especially of older men and very much younger women. In this , the Viagara generation men are fooling themselves into thinking that this is a good idea. While it may be exciting initially it doesn't take long for the differences to surface and the sad truth is even the young age eventually.

7. For security. Jumping from the pan into the fire is never a good idea. Getting married to run away from an unhappy home situation is doomed from the start. It is a sad fact that people who are abused by their families often marry abusers. It is a cycle they can't seem to break. You have to learn to stand on your own before you are ready to handle the responsibilities of marriage.

But if you can't imagine living your life without your partner then you have found one of the best reasons for getting married and I say go for it. I did forty years ago and I have never regretted it.

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