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A door slams and you jump. Your son walks up behind you to give you a hug and you scream. There is an argument going on just 20 feet away and you can feel yourself starting to hyperventilate. You wake up crying, only to realize it was just a dream now. Last night you were in the middle of a board game and could feel panic just take over your body. You try to breathe and talk yourself through the next things to happen. The shakes start and you are now chilled. Your vision becomes slightly blurred and you have to stop what you are doing. Your heart is now racing and the world seems to be moving extremely fast, while you wallow in your panic. Everyone around is wondering what is wrong. You were fine just a second ago and now you are overwhelmed with anxiety. Talking did nothing to stop it this time. Now your chest is heavy and your hands are numb. You feel like you are dying, but you are not. You have just dealt with the many bruised underneath the skin.

Physically you no longer have to deal with the pain of the busted lip or your daily dose of being used as the definition of incompetent, worthless, slut, whore or whatever else comes to mind. Now you have to deal with the demons that have built nest inside of your head, to maintain a level of control over your emotions. The real demon has disappeared and his followers are trying to stage a war.

The physical abuse is over. Now is the time to start healing from inside. Make yourself and your well-being the top priority in your life. Everything else will come naturally. Now is the time to start healing from the inside. Read, ride a bike, meditate, write a poem or start a journal. Call a friend and go to a comedy. Don't forget the popcorn! Do something that focuses on you and leaves you feeling relaxed. Each time you do this, you are taking a giant step towards healing from within.

Slowly, those purple marks that lay dormant underneath your skin will fade to brown and then yellow. They don't seem to ache like they use to and they are much harder to find. Accepting these marks as part of you war scars, leaves room for you to allow yourself to finally heal and move on with life

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