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Relax. Yeah, I know it can be difficult, but try it. Too many guys stress out about their first dates without realizing one important fact; she is on a first date too. Have you ever reminisced with a girlfriend about your first date only to have her confess she was as nervous as you were? While you can laugh about it in hindsight it sure would have been easier if you knew about her feelings beforehand. Well, the honest answer is you do know about it. Whether out of nervousness or lack of esteem, men often ignore this fact and put on a huge show for a woman. So first and foremost, just try to relax.

The key to planning a great first date is to go somewhere where you feel comfortable. Too many men also have this annoying habit of acting fake on their first date. They take them out to dinners they cannot afford and wear clothes they will never touch again. Let's face it; the idea of getting a first date is to reach a second date, so why would you want to create an unrealistic expectation? A woman who likes you for taking her out to fancy places does not actually like you; she likes the things that you give her. So if you normally do not go out to five star restaurants, then do not bother on your date.

The key to a successful first date is to have fun. While this idea may seem obvious, it is the opposite of what most men were programmed to do. We were taught to be extra polite and formal on dates, but how fun is that? Instead of being polite, act a little cocky. Instead of being formal, pretend you have dated her before. You can create the mood of a date, so why not put it to your advantage? Do you ever notice how the jerks always get the girls? It is not because girls like jerks, it is because jerks do not care about the impression they give their dates. They have fun and act like themselves even if the woman he is with is not expecting it. Woman love this attitude and men prefer acting this way. Everybody wins.

The problem most people have on first dates is creating a level of comfort so the two people loosen up enough to have a good time. While you may be lucky enough to be with a girl who does this for you, it will probably be you who has to create the rapport. While it never hurts to sit down with your date over a few drinks or dinner and ask them some background information, it also should not be your entire date. Dates should not be interviews. You are not trying to fill out her online profile; you are trying to have some fun. Tease your date. Give her a hard time about a light topic and then smile immediately afterward. When she returns the teasing then you know she is staring to feel comfortable. Touch your date. Find an excuse to lightly touch her while you are talking. If she likes you she will touch you back. Move your date. Motion creates emotion, so find an excuse to move around. Going for a walk or playing Golden Tee allows for breaks in the conversation that are not awkward.

So instead of putting on your nicest suit, going to the finest restaurant, and acting like a servant, have fun and let go. You will both enjoy the night and you will get that coveted second date. Good luck.

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