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But making friends isn't all about listening. Friendship has to be a partnership between two people. For people who are shy or suffer from low self-esteem, sharing things about ourselves can be difficult. I'm not saying you have to build yourself up to be larger than life, it's not necessary to be a super-star. Just share a little something about yourself in conversation. Give people a reason to connect with you and remember you next time. They might be as nervous as you are about meeting someone new and forget that asking questions is a way to make friends. Help them out by offering a bit about yourself.

Keep a positive attitude. Never say anything negative, and especially not about another person. It puts you in a bad light and besides, you never know who you are talking to and how they might be related to the person you are talking about. Keep all your conversations positive and people will want to be around you. What's more, they won't worry that you will say something negative about them later.

Laugh. Not everyone can be funny, but when you laugh at other people's jokes, they will think you have a great sense of humor. Everyone loves to be around people who are funny, but every comedian needs someone who likes to laugh.

Don't change for your friends and try to be something you are not. If they participate in activities that you don't like, then don't join them. Step back to the beginning and meet some other people who do share your same interests and values. You'll be rewarded with friends who share things in common with you.

Finally, be there in times of need. Remember the saying, "A friend in need is a friend indeed." Don't be one of the friends that disappear when times are tough. Be the one to stay and help out in time of need.

The way to make friends is to meet people, but don't expect that every person you meet will be your friend. If you meet new people everyday for a week, you will be very lucky if one of them becomes a good friend. In the meantime, you've been out connecting with others, and maybe even helping a few at the same time.

"And in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make." Paul McCartney/John Lennon.

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