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I would never let my daughter who is an only child have a coed sleepover. Whether she's under 10 or not. I think that there is so much inappropriate behavior shown to our children these days in school, on television, everywhere that the home should be somewhere that can still be a "sacred" place. If I start letting my daughter have friends that are boys stay over now, what am I going to say when she's 13 and wants a boy to stay over? If she had a brother it would be different, if a boy stayed over it would be to play with her brother not her. Even kids understand that there is something that older boys and girls do that they don't do in front of their parents, they just don't know exactly what it is.

I will teach my daughter about sex so I don't want her learning about it from her peers, especially peers of the opposite sex who may not necessarily have all the information. Not that you can trust a young girl and boy together, just not so stay the night together, supervised constantly or not. I think as parents and as a country we are all guilty of sexualizing a lot of situations that shouldn't be sexualized and that has rubbed off on our children. Little girls walk around in skimpy clothes trying to look sexy and they aren't even teenagers. Why do they want to do that?

I just know, that my daughter will be raised much more conservatively than most of her peers and she'll probably hate me for it, but I want her to have a "normal" childhood for as long as she can. I want her to think boys have cooties until she's at least 13 and I will do everything I can to make sure that is so. Not that I want her to think boys are bad because they are not bad or gross or anything else. What I do want he to know is that there is a time and a place, when she's 10 years old that is not the time to start having coed sleepovers. I want her to understand that there is a level of appropriateness in relationships that changes throughout our lives based upon our age and maturity level.

When she's 13, I want her talking about a how cute a guy is, not about how she wants to give him oral sex or something else that she doesn't really understand fully. I think that letting her have coed sleepovers is going to expose her to a lot more of these types of things, as will having a same sex sleepover, hopefully just not to the extent of having the opposite sex involved.

Untill my daughter is of age to leave the home and be her own adult, making her own knowledgable, mature responsible decisions she will not have a boy at our house nor will she stay at a boy's house, related or un-related. Of course there may be that exceptional time when there's an emergency, things do happen that we cannot control, but even if it's a coed sleepover for her bestfriends party the answer will be no, she can enjoy the party, but she'll be home before the lights are out.

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