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When the truth hurts a relationship of friendship. I have found it very hard to deal with how people see me and my family these last few months. The truth hurts more than you would think when your friends seems to spell it out to you on a daily basis. Everything that I thought someone might think of me was confirmed. My feeling were hurt and my very soul seemed to be a projection screen for all to see. I have found myself wondering what type of person I really am and what type of family environment my husband and I have created.

The truth is filled with so much emotion. When someone tells you how your raising your child or how to raise your child, it feels like they are taking over in a since. Here I am in my late twenties wondering what I have accomplished threw my life. Not only that, but what type of wife and mother I might be. Once my friends have told me what they feel, I took a step back wondering how I can change myself. I felt like I was being attacked and yes I wanted to get away. In a sense, run away. I felt like a child again. I was being told what they wanted to see change. I know that people, especially friends can make a huge impression on your life. My friends certainly have.

I was never afraid of the truth when I had to sit down and tell one, but these last few months have made me think before I talk. I noticed that I've kept to my self and wondered about leaving this friendship for a different day or a different trial. I like my friends and I love my family, but sometimes the truth about someone should be dealt with in a gentler way. The truth hurts in a relationship with friends.

The only advice that I can share as a human being dealing with friends, is to be more patient with your friends. If you have to sit them down to talk to them openly, do it in a respectful tone and manner. Don't imberris them in front of their peers or their children. If you feel that someone should change or change the way you raise your child, just listen. You only have to listen, but that does not mean that you have to take the advise at the end of the conversation. If you do take their advise and try to change your ways, let your friends know that things won't happen over night. Everyone needs more than one day to make their life changes. Good Luck!

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