by Fran A

Created on: March 03, 2008

How to ease separation anxiety for Toddlers

Raising a child as a well balanced healthy growing individual is a very
hard job. You have to take care of his general physical being, food intake,
physical growth, health and provide him a happy life

At the same time you have to keep track of his emotional, mental social
psychological growth as well.

Teary and tantrum filled good byes are a very common symptoms of early

separation anxiety.

In a child who is developing normally the separation anxiety starts at 4-7
months. When he starts feeling the sense of object, and out of several he
feels there is only one of you. So, when you are not around he starts feeling
you are gone away. He does not know where, just in the kitchen preparing
his formula or out to work. To express this negative feeling he start to cry
this is all he knows to be naturally happy or not happy.

At this point when It is time to go back to work, read with him some books.

The good Bye book , written by Judith Viorst
The Kissing Hound, written by Audry peun.
Big Truck & little truck by Jan Carr
I love you all day long by Francessa Rusackas

when he is grown toddler at about 1 year and growing, he starts
to agitate and upset and starts crying and clings to mother or father
or rejects attention from others around. The peak age is different
from child to child and different to the same child at different days.
But usually from 8 months to 2 years this anxiety surrounds toddlers,
It can start when some new surprises come in a child's life, like a new baby
at home, a new child care provider, a tense situation at home and many others.

How long does this last? It also depends on the child parent and care provider.
If the parent, comes back from the door to calm down the child, child will
usually get the message to throw the temper tantrum again and again and stronger
than before. He might even develop nausea, vomiting or have shortness of breath.
Or panic attacks.

Separation anxiety usually lasts up to five years of age and for toddlers this
stage passes without any medical attention. But if needed should not be avoided,
so negative symptoms may go away and child and parent both may get rid of this anxiety.

Parents can always help improve a child's separation anxiety.

1.Two weeks before child and mother have to be separated start telling
the child that we are going to go out for fun, you will get to play with friend.
2.The child care provider that you choose, must be familiar with the child
3.At home when the child is with you give him some

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