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conflicts from the outside is exhausting for me. No wonder he needs to spend his days off napping rather than enjoying his family. I prefer this now, however, as I, a stay at home mother of two, don't have the energy to appease another whiny child all weekend.

It is nearly six years later and we have grown into a family. We are not married as he is the youngest of five boys and the obviously scarred victim of his parents notoriously messy divorce. I don't push marriage. He loves me and provides for his family, and you can't push a narcissist!

I have stopped biting my tongue however. That approach was simply not working and he has weakened my once steadfast patience!

Stop whining about your boss if you are not going to do anything to fix the situation! If you are so certain that you are right and he is wrong, speak up! If not, shut up!

Focus on whatever happened yesterday that had you feeling like you had the best
job in the world rather than that little thing that happened today that has
suddenly brought your world to a crashing halt.

It is just a bad day, not a bad life! Your life is here, in this house.
It is beautiful and all around you and you are missing it because you are lost
in your misery and intolerance!

I am on your side! And sometimes it is your best interest for me to tell you why
YOU are wrong and everyone else is right!

No, I am not going crazy because I am home all day with the kids. I am going
crazy because this roller coaster ride that is your emotions is exhausting and it
is sucking the very positivity and happiness that I thrive on right out of me!
If I lose me, we will all lose!

I decide to buckle up hold on a little tighter. It is a bumpy ride but we have made progress. And the thing about a narcissist is that when they are not beating themselves up, they are beautiful and fun and everything you fell in love with and believe they can, and somewhere deep down, want to be! I won't let him take me down with him, but I am not a quitter!

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