5 of 8

Write now Article Tools

I can't help but laugh in spite of myself. I am wondering if I should I try to give real life advice on friend making?
The reason why I have to laugh at the title, is because I can give you advice on how to make friends, I am very good at making friends.
The coworkers at my last job joking called me the "mayor" as I somehow knew an obscene amount of people wherever went.

I just seem to know the tricks to making friends.
It is not quantity however, but quality.
Call me on a Friday night and you will see how small my friend circle is. So as a friend, from me to you, use this as a guide for future BFFS.
Step one in making a friend is;
Smile. Cheese it up, look them directly in the eye, and act like you hold the secrets to
Life's universal questions. What is the harm in faking it to you make it right? "When you
Smile the whole world smiles with you" like Sinatra said, and boy was he right. Try
Not to smile and feel good when someone walks by with a smile ear to ear directed at you. If you happen to need gall and bravery and something to smile about, conjure up
A past happy memory, something funny that made you feel really good at that moment in time and in no time You will look like a friendly, outgoing person that people want to talk to.
This brings us to
Step number Two in Making a friends;
Talk to anyone and everyone.
This includes the coffee barista, the train conductor, Joe the neighborhood drunk, use caution in this exchange of course, Because talking to people is how you make friends.
You can't make a friend if you never speak to an unexpected person.
Dealing outside of your comfort zone and speaking to people you might not normally
Will relax you, and instinctually make you a more outgoing individual. This brings us
To Step 3 of Making friends;
Show genuine interest in what the person has to say. No body wants to talk to someone whose only interest is talking about them.
Conversation is a two way street, and when you show that you actually care about the person's opinion, feelings and input on a topic, you are showing that you actually care about them. When and if they decide to share a a part of themselves with you, and partake in friendly banter, take care not to talk down, or talk at, as if they are an insolent child who has no experience in life. Show them that they are interesting, and that their feelings are important, and that you are someone they can trust and enjoy talking to, which brings us to all important
Step Four Of friend Making;
Being someone they can trust. If you want someone to share with you all of lives ups and downs, a friend is that person, No matter what they say show them that you are the shoulder to lean on. You may think your own opinions are the right ones, and the most valid, however people especially potential friends like nothing more than to have their own feelings and opinions validated. Even if sometimes you don't agree with their choices. You may express your feelings, but in a healthy way. If you are able to do this, you will win their heart and their trust and be considered a friend.
Follow all of these steps, you will become not only a social butterfly, but a person, that other people like to be around and talk to.

Learn more about this author, Penelope Clementine.
Click here to send this author comments or questions.

Add your voice

Know something about Tips for making friends?
We want to hear your view. Write now!