by Author Name Withheld 119

Created on: March 01, 2008

Bullying. So you think that it probably has stopped after your High School Graduation? Well, think again. When you walk into your workplace, there will most likely be bullying, along with other negative behaviour. Whether it is through verbal abuse, minor physical abuse, or mental/emotional abuse, bullying still exists past the High School level. It exists in almost every workplace. We just most often tune it out, so it appears to be non-existent, but if we sat and watched everything that went on ine workplace, we may easily pick out the bullies and the type of conflicts that bring the bully to act.

The most common response to being bullied is the confrontation response. What ever has happened to walking away from the fighter? Are we afraid to appear weak? This won't show you have a weak side. In fact, it will show you are a responsible adult in your workplace.

It is best to approach the matter by gaining insight on the main issue or issues, and the interests of both sides - you and your bully. What are the interests of the "bully" and what are the interests of the "victim"? Perhaps the bully is jealous, and just wants to "get even". Let the bully know you are not there to fight, but in fact, you are there to listen and help when possible. This could place a whole new outlook on the bully's vision towards you. Open up positions to them, and try not to close doors up around them. This may cause the bully to feel threatened, and become more aggravated.

If you feel threatened by the bullying, there are options such as mediation, negotiation, and speaking to a Human Resources professional. You may be provided with advice and guidance. You could also, under anonymous status behind the back of your bully, speak to your manager about this issue.

If you are provided with the correct insight and approach your bully with a positive attitude, they may realize you are there to be a friend, not an enemy. Bullies tend to search for attention because they feel there is something missing. By being there, they may let you in on how they feel. That person may not even be a true bully after all.

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