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First dates should be fun. Sometimes the bad are even better than the good. It's all down the being optimistic. A bad date is great, you can call a good girl friend over break into the Ben and Jerry's ice cream and have a good giggle about what and idiot he was. Dating doesn't have to be hard, difficult or even a chore. It's meant to be about finding a person who you really like and getting to know them better. It might not be fun at first but if you twist it then it can be.

Here are just general pointers to how you should plan:

.Wash you hair that day, in the morning. If you date is in the morning/afternoon then hunny it ain't a date it's a casual meeting. Dinner is a date, coffee is a 'get to know you get together' but brunch or even lunch is a 'humor me date you might end up okay.'

.Don't be 'fashionably' late because it's not fashionable it's just rude. Get there when you're meant to, to avoid embarrassment.

.Don't pile on the make-up, wear a short skirt or push your breasts up to your chin. Save that for date number 3 (usually a quick snog date) In all seriousness though the first date is the first impression and you want to be a bit hard to get which keeps them interested and wanting more. if he's on a date with you then he finds you some what attractive you don't need to convince him otherwise.

. Keep asking him questions, even if he's a bit shy. It tells him that you are interested in them and that your not full of yourself (even if you are.) Keep the answers open, so not 'yes and no' questions. Make it so that you can bring it back to you as well you keep the conversation flowing.

. Avoid those oh so embarrassing silent pauses. Instant sign of awkwardness, just keep naturally smiling and being friendly. Talk about work their hobbies and your hobbies. The possibilities are seriously endless. Before you go on the date think about what you can talk about. Remember a planned date is a successful one.

. Don't over analyze what your going to do. It will make you seem fake and really serious. Just be yourself and have fun. Dates aren't death sentences they need to be celebrated and enjoyed.

. Use your good points. If you ramble when your nervous then keep your answers to a minimum. But if you can be really funny then crack a few jokes and see if there is a response. Everyone has something good about there personality so use that as your strength and strike them with it.

. Confident not arrogant. When you are asked about you best achievement to date or what your most proud of be relaxed and modest about it. Don't totally get in his face and tell how fabulous you are. Let him see it for himself men can be dumb but don't need arrogance slapping them in the face.

. Just be yourself. If you walk in with a smokescreen of fakeness it will shine through. There is no point not being yourself because if this person is not for you then why bother? DEFINITELY DO NOT LIE! There is the bad and then the catastrophic mistakes like lying. It shows from the first date you can't be trusted so to avoid that lovely embarrassments don't do it!

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