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I can sympathize with you because i used to be more of an outcast person. I wanted to change just like you, but i was really dedicated to it. I can tell you how and i can show you how, but you have to be willing to do everything if you really want to be happy. It might be hard and it might sound easier than it really is, but just bear through it.

1) First you need to change your attitude on life. You need more self-confidence. One simple thing you can do is just talk to yourself in the mirror and don't look at all your faults, look at you strengths and what you have to contribute to a conversation. Next, you should try listening to a conversation, maybe between your parents or siblings and just think about what you could say to make the conversation progress and make yourself noticed. This is good practice. You really need to master your speaking skills and your confidence in front of people to be happy around others. You could also observe people that you look up to and see how they handle a conversation with others.

2) Once you are comfortable enough that you think you can manage a decent conversation with someone without them thinking you are weird, you need to improve how you look at yourself. When you see yourself in the mirror you are probably looking at all your faults. You can do one of two things, you can accept them and make those faults into a strength by thinking about how it can benefit you, or you can change them. My faults where that i was a little bit chubby and i had bad acne. What i did was started doing pucsups and sit-up and gradually moved on to a lot of different workouts and weightlifting. I also ate the right stuff and only ate when i was hungry and not because i felt like it was time to eat. I then went to a dermatologist and he prescribed a product for me to use called acutane. In five months, i was muscular and my face was clear. It really works, i can run 40 meters in under 5 seconds. Just think about ways to overcome your faults or just accept it. The bottom line is you need to be comfortable with yourself.

3) You need to choose a personality for yourself that you feel is you and that you feel others will accept. This is very important, you need an outgoing personality that is not too wild and that you are comfortable with. Make sure you are using that personality because YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH IT and not because everyone else is acting like that.

3) Next, stop buying and wearing those clothes that are outdated and/or borderline "emo" (emotional- a phrase that young people use to describe someone who is usually an outcast and wears dark clothes). Those clothes make others mark you as "weird" you do not want to be judged by your outward appearance due to your clothes. Try buying some clothes that you think are in-style, you could also ask your older siblings or friends for advice on which clothes to wear.

4) Make some new friends, like you said, go out there and meet people, although this time, you should be prepared because you know how to talk to people and start a conversation that is interesting. You should also listen to the news and read newspapers often. This allows for a topic that the majority of other people know and are genuinely interested in talking about.

5) Become a leader. Once i was comfortable enough, i met a whole lot of people that looked up to me because i was comfortable with who i was and i knew how to talk to people.

It really not that hard, before you know it, you will have friends and a nice girlfriend that cares about you. Remember to have confidence NO MATTER WHAT! That's what separates a quiet person in the corner from the person that is the center of attention.

good luck, hope it helps.

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