by Y. V. Steele

Created on: February 28, 2008

Suicide the act of taking your own life, to relieve the emotional, mental, and sometimes the physical pain that a person could carry around with them day after day, and night after night sometimes carrying around feelings of depression, hopelessness, and feelings of being trapped for a long time unnoticed. I have learned over time that a person will go through different stages before they can actual comment the final act of suicide.

Our problem is that we as the friends and family of the victims, (Victims because they are victims of the own mind and the grief and sorrow) we do not really know what signs to look for in an individual contemplating Suicide, what changes, what did we miss?

To have a love one comment suicide, brings on a mass amount of mixed emotions, from blame of self or others, to constantly replaying situations that know set of alarms of changed behavior to the constant unanswerable question, why?

Why did this happen? What could I have done differently? Why me? In order to deal with the death of a loved one by suicide the first thing is not to blame yourself, or the victim. Unless they came straight out and said "I am prepared to commit suicide" you may have had no way of knowing their attention to do so, do not blame others. (The natural human reaction when something happens with no explanation we tend to blame others around us, or others involved in the personal life of our love one.

Any death is a tragic event but to lose a person that you hold close to your heart by the means of suicide leaves to many questions, to much hurt too much non-understanding behind. If not understood that you are not the reason that this event has taken place your life may become gloomy and unbearable. Remember the happy times that you shared with your love one, do not dwell on may have happened to cause this, continue to live, and learn and share, because you doing so could possible help another deal with the death of a family member by suicide, it could help you heal, it could even equip you with the knowledge to recognize the behavior, and prevent another from committing suicide.

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