I think in order to become more attractive to women you have to first understand how attraction works for women. A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking attraction works the same for women as it does for them. This couldn't be further from the truth. I myself used to be very good at attracting girls but really had no idea why. It wasn't until I went through a very painful break-up that I realized that what girls say they want and what they are actually attracted to are two entirely different things. If you want proof, ask any girl what qualities they look for in a guy. They will tell you tall, dark, sensitive, nice etc, etc. Yet, they always end up going out with a complete jerk who either cheats on them, hits them or treats them like they are invisible. And what happens? They keep going back for more all the while crying to their male girlfriend "all I want is a nice guy".

Girls are very emotional beings. Everything they think and feel whether they will admit it or not is based off of emotion. When it comes to how attraction works for girls its the same concept. Stir the right emotions in her and you will create attraction. As opposed to guys who just have to see a decent looking girl.

Stirring the right emotions to create attraction can be somewhat of a tricky thing. No matter what you do and no matter what type of girl you are talking to girls will test you. If you fail, you're out. Its almost like a weeding out process. A lot of things have changed throughout the course of human nature. Look at how men have gone from being cavemen to the state that the current male is in. Also, look how far women have come. From not being able to vote to making as much if not more money than a lot of men. Men are taught from a very young age to treat women with respect, to buy them flowers, to buy them drinks to be an overall nice guy. Thats what every mother wants from her son but definitely not what girls find attractive. Girls want a guy who is confident, cocky, funny and in charge. Not controlling but a leader of sorts. Someone who knows what he wants and how to get it. This is why girls will test you. If you go up to a girl, strike up a conversation and ask her for her number and she says no and you just walk away, you've shown her you are not man enough to deal with her. Women want someone who is strong, emotionally. If you put your head down and walk away at the first sign of rejection, you are showing weakness. Now I'm not saying sit there and beg her for it because thats even worse. Don't ask her why not. Say something funny. Make fun of her for it. Tell her " Ya, I'd save for the John Travolta wannabe I saw you dancing with earlier". Don't be a jerk about it. But you wanna come across with a no big deal there are a million other girls and you really aren't as special as you think you are attitude. You want her to seek your approval instead of you begging for hers. You have to come across like she's almost lucky to have you talking to her. It may seem cocky and overly arrogant, but it works. You may come across some girls who get offended or upset, if thats the case they probably don't have a sense of humor anyway. But by building a fun, playful and sexual rapport and by showing confident body language it will create the attraction inside of her by stirring the right emotions. No girl wants a boring, nonconfident guy that feels he is lucky to be standing next to her. Girls want something they feel they can't have or at least someone they find interesting, funny, and comfortable around.

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