by Layla Donovan

Created on: February 28, 2008

That's a simple question with a simple answer....DON'T DO IT! Men don't want to hear that you have been spread more times than butter. They'll find that out soon enough when they stick their penis in and their entire body practically falls in. Or, they'll realize that you got the right rhythm and moves down pat. Either way, keep the number of men you've bedded to yourself. You're trying to show somewhat that you're the girl that he may possibly want to introduce to mom and mom doesn't want to meet a hooker. Of course, if you're just going for quantity then by all means, yak away. This rule also applies to men, but there's a twist to it. Unfortunately, there is a double standard. Most women appreciate a man who has had a good amount of experience so he'll know what in the heck he's doing, but a man doesn't need to give a number because then the girl might think that he's just trying to add notches to his belt. A funny story here and there is perfectly fine.

Revealing too much too soon is a good way to scare someone off for the simple fact that they don't know you from Adam. If you start reminiscing about your rebellious college days when you trashed the frat house or had a lesbian experience you may come off as too wild or uninhibited. Those conversations are best left for after the 6 month mark when the person has had a chance to get to know who you really are at the moment. Sure, we've all had our not so proud moments, but most of us learned from them and it made us the person we are now. So why make someone wonder if you're still that psycho stalker or clingy dweeb?

It's just in people's nature to assume that you may still hold on to personality traits that made Manson look like a saint. You are not required to tell anyone anything that you don't feel comfortable with. If someone asks if you've ever smoked weed and you choose to say no it's not lying if you only experimented once or twice. Who's going to ever tell them the truth? Now if you were a habitual pothead and were known the world over as "the" hemp supplier you may want to be honest, but keep the details to a minimum if you've decided to stay clean.

It may be difficult at times to let go of the past which is why it's important to listen to others experiences. We can certainly learn a thing or two and hopefully not decide when we're stone drunk to get a tattoo of our current crush. Now there's a past mistake you can't easily get rid of and talking your way out of that one will be absolute hell.

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