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Since, traditionally at least, women don't plan the first date, the pressure is on from the start. The guy, or gal, that you've asked out or were asked by will be curious, men in particular, just what does she have in store for me? They might be trembling in anticipation of a chick flick marathon.

What you want to do is represent honestly who you are, plus throw in a good healthy dose of dazzle to impress that special someone. You obviously feel that you are attracted to this person for a reason, do you have a lot in common?

Planning your date around a common interest will allow both of you to relax right away, no one wants to be in a situation they are unfamiliar with, including you.

Aim for laid back instead of stiff collar situations, meaning don't opt to impress by booking the hottest, high end restaurant around, instead, aim a little more low key. First off, the bill time would be doubly awkward some place where plates are fifty bucks a pop, and the need to use good manners' may restrict conversation.

After all, the main goal of dating is to feel someone out, to see if he or she is someone you would be interested in spending more time with. Why waste both of your time with countless dates which are leading no where?

If someone is more relaxed, they will open up more freely, and show their true colors. You'll be more likely to get the feel for the real' them if their comfortable, and you'll feel better too.

Tradition insists that we go to a dinner, and then a movie, but why not mix it up a little bit? Show your playful side with a bit of skating, or bowling. Maybe your both art buffs, pop by the local art gallery (most colleges have at least one), and then finish it up with an impromptu dinner in the park or with some coffee.

There are dozens of options out there, even in the smallest of towns, it just takes a little bit of creative thinking on your part, and really considering what you know about this person.

Chances are, it won't take long for all the details to fall into place, and don't be afraid to ask them what they think. Your date may have tons of ideas, or at least be able to clue you in on some things. For instance, maybe they've already seen that latest flick, or perhaps their allergic to Chinese food.

Remember when you are making plans not to leave empty awkward time frames, have a general idea of what you're going to be doing, but don't be overly strict if a moonlight walk pops up.

Now that you have the fine print figured out, all you have to do is decide what to wear.

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