by Helen Kelly

Created on: February 27, 2008

A first date? How exciting! It must mean that he wants to go out with you too! Did you ask him? Did he ask you? Those things aren't important. What matters is, you are going to spend time with someone new who may, or may not, become someone very significant to you later on. Did he want you to plan to plan the date? Do it! Think of something fun to do, something to share together that will help give you clues as to who you are getting to know. Here are some suggestions to help you with this exciting event.

Plan your first date soon. Don't give yourself too much time to stress over what will be happening, or what you will be doing, or if he will like you, etc. Give yourself a couple of days to put something together, but don't let it turn into a long drawn out ordeal, filled with neurotic anticipation or worry. The idea is to make it as natural as possible. No big deal...even if it is.

Keep it light. Plan something that you will be able to enjoy together. Perhaps a fun day at a local amusement park? This way you can spend time on the rides, and spend time talking to each other. A movie? Perhaps a light comedy, followed by a snack, which would give you a chance to spend time getting to know each other. The date doesn't have to be expensive, just fun!

Keep it public. Try to stay clear of isolated places. No hikes yet. Not to his place. Not to your place. Not any place where you could be vulnerable to someone you don't know. Don't be suspicious, just be careful. Some time spent at a bookstore may show

each other what your different interests are. Even a magazine stand can give you a little insight into each others head. An art gallery, or a book sale at the library can stimulate the conversation.

Keep it short. This first meeting is the beginning of an acquaintance with someone. You are not getting married, you are not even friends yet. Don't spend so much time together that you get sick of each other. Spend enough time together to see if there is a reason to see each other again. Getting bored? You don't have to worry about being stuck with someone you are not connecting with. Having fun? Great! Leave him wanting more, and he'll be calling soon.

Remember, you are about to have a fun time trying to get to know someone...a first date.

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