by J. Lee Kenser

Created on: February 26, 2008

Soul-mates is an overly used term in many instances what people perceive as truly compatible soul-mates is merely the embodiment of two equally balanced individuals working as one.

It is a nice and romantic notion that even I as a man, relished in for many years but the notion is well over-used and often thought of as the ideal mate. This can only be the furthest from the truth for many people both male and female since most often they continue to pick based on their ideal physical and emotional needs as their mind perceives them and fail to truly find a match.

There are some couples who for one reason or another seem to be perfect for one another but, who can truly put a mark on what makes them truly compatible? Could it be they have the same ideals, maybe? Could it be they have the same goals, possibly? It could simply be they have the same outlook on life, love, happiness and quite often religion.

This makes many couples truly happy with one another and some just make everyone think they are truly happy as they never fight or have a harsh word in public or in front of their children, then suddenly in their late 60's when both are home all the time, they get divorced and never go near one another again, it happens.

Were they soul-mates or just two people who for many years wouldn't face the fact they couldn't stand one another's bad habits? Who knows? Many people often think they have found their soul-mate and marry only to spend the next years of their lives wondering what they ever truly saw in this person in the first place.

Men blame it on women trying to change the way they were before they married even if they lived together first all the while Women place blame on men, work, kids, sex and whatever seems to be in their minds wrong with the man in their lives. Whoever is to blame is irrelevant either they are your soul-mate or you were fooling yourself into thinking that love was only about soul-mates and not about working to make a marriage work, not everyone can have a quiet, sane, drama-free marriage/relationship and your fooling yourself if you think otherwise.

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