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Friendship with those of the opposite sex

First if someone is married they should include their spouse in their outings. If the spouse is not include in plans, there will problems. It is ok to have a friendship with the opposite sex if the person that is married to the other friend sees this person as not being a threat to the marriage. Never must one decide that the friend is more important than their spouse. Some married couples like to discuss things with their spouse and do not want their spouse to tell their business to someone else . Yes spouses become upset with the person they are married to when they spend all their time around a friend of the opposite sex.

For example say, your husband becomes friends with a woman at work and they go for drinks or a bite to eat,and the husband does not tell the wife and she hears from another one of the husband's friends. The wife begins to question the husband for not telling her. Now every time the husband goes to work the wife wonders if he and she are having an affair. There are certain things a man can do if he wants to have a friendship with someone of the opposite sex . One of the things is include your wife,second make it clear that you are married and you keep no s erects from you wife. Third do not talk like you are in love with this friend and let your voice mail get the calls. Do not be quick to answer the phone every time this friend calls. Put your family first and the friend second. Do not push this friend on your wife. Tell this friend up front your wife and family come first. When planning things to do make sure your wife is not going to be left out. Never allow this person to be your friend if you and this friend have had a sexuality relationship, this is a no no . A wife does not want to be remind of someone her husband had a sexuality relationship with or remind of it every time she and her husband go out with this person. It is the husband choose to say no, because he is going to have not only face his wife but losing his marriage once ,she hears that . Then comes the I do not trust you and she will feel like there is something going on again. We are women who our husband's but we do not want someone around us who are going to hurt us either.

Man wake up before you lose your family ,and decide what is important to you. Sometimes it is better to have a friendship at work by being respect to them at work and not having an outside friendship with certain people. Treating them with respect at work,may be best.

I know some men want to have another person they can talk to at work ,but sometimes this is the person who turns on you just so they can get what they want and they are the ones who will get a pay raise or a higher position or they try to blackmail you into something. Not only will you lose your job ,but you may go to jail because this person has told lies and they believe her and now the higher heads are after you. Your family is leaving and you are all alone in your house which you are going to lose because you have no job to pay for it anymore. You are on the phone begging your wife to come back to you,but she will not because you cross the line.

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